(M)ot(i)va(ti)(on)

Motivation. A thing I have been lacking recently. Is it because of the winter rain settling in? Is it because I am overwhelmed with planning my trips this year? Is it because I am content and satisfied? Or is it because I’m just simply being lazy?

I could make the easy excuse and say that it is probably a combination of those things, but the reality is, is that it does not matter what is going on in my life. I feel as if I should always be motivated. Who cares if I’m content with life, shouldn’t that motivate me to wake up in the mornings? What if I am overwhelmed with trips, should I not be motivated to get it together?

The fact if the matter is there’s two sides to everything, but one thing that always remains the same is excuses. It’s like the old saying excuses are like buttholes everyone has one.

Excuse: (verb) to lessen the blame; to justify; to release someone from a duty or requirement

Excuse: (noun) a reason or explanation given to justify a fault or offence

Why?! Why is it that everyone has an excuse? Why have we created sayings around excuses? If something goes wrong, it is embedded in humans to immediately think of an excuse and then depending on the type of person you are, you either continue with the excuse or take responsibility.

Instead of excuses, why are we not programmed to immediately think of solutions? How amazing would it be if we screwed up or needed to get out of something and instead of thinking of things we could say to ‘excuse’ our behavior, we came up with solutions that are going to keep things function properly regardless of our attendance or mistake.

I watched a video earlier about how many times a person is told no compared to the number of times that a person is told yes, by the time they reached a certain age, and the significance was massive. If we are told no, does that take away from our motivation? If we are told yes, does that inspire us?

Additionally, I saw a video the other day about how much a person can let a rejection effect them, especially kids, and make them feel like they need to change who they are so then they will feel accepted. The value that is put on that rejection is substantial. We are willing to completely change who we are because ONE person decided that we were not right for that ONE job.

Why do we think that receiving that letter or email is so important when the reality is, is that it was because ONE person decided that we weren’t ‘the best fit.’ Imagine if you kept the job the same and you changed the person hiring, now all of a sudden you get the job. We should not down ourselves or feel the need to comfort those people who face rejection, instead we need to be telling these people that they still matter, they are still the badass that they are, they still rock at life, and that they are better off without that job because in reality they probably weren’t going to get along with the person that rejected them in the first place. Instead, we should be sending them thank you letters saying thanks for saving me the stress and hassle of having to work with you.

If we slowly start to change these things, will it not help motivate us?

Some weeks I feel like I am on a roll at life and absolutely crushing it. I feel motivated, I feel like I am trying to make the right adjustments to my life, and then a week later I sit back and I’m like eh not today. Why? Why one week am I so motivated to make change and chase after the life I want to live and then the next I’m over it and come to accept that this is just the way things are going to be?

I could make the excuse, plain and simple, and say society. I mean is that not the reason I feel the way that I feel? Society has tried to tell me all my life who I am suppose to be, what is acceptable, what I can and cannot do, when I am suppose to show up for things, etc.

I think where people fail, especially me until I thought about it, is that people should do the things they want to do but they are told they cannot. In the end, unless there is proven harmful benefits to you or the people around you, more than likely when we die, whatever you wanted to do, someone else is going to be doing it and then it will be okay. Think about what you want to do and then think in 100 even 200 years do you think it will be legal? If so, I say do it!

It’s just like I said about the rejection story. Our laws are made from people, yes it is more than one person, but laws are passed by groups of people that were voted in office by the same like-minded individuals. I’m not sure about you, but I want to be different. Why should I follow the rules of these people that think differently than me? Why does their opinion mean more and matter more than mine? It doesn’t. It just so happens that these people decided to pick politics as their career and I decided to follow a different path.

If I continue to follow the path of people different than me, then how am I suppose to be motivated? How am I going to be different? How can I be me when I’m doing everything everybody else is?

I’m tired of making excuses and blaming society for everything. Yeah society greatly shapes the way we think and behave, but it is up to you to come up with the solution. Society’s solutions can’t be your solution. Do what you want to do. Be who you want to be. Find your solutions and stop making excuses.

Be motivated. Be yourself. Be different.